Like Catcher in the Rye, Huck Finn involves a boy whose inner self is in conflict with what the adult world expects from him.
Write
about a time when your own ideas, beliefs or convictions were in
conflict with what was expected from you or considered acceptable. What
have you done about it? Another way of approaching this would be to
write about what element (s) of "normal," "acceptable" adult life is
troubling to you.
Just an FYI: The Common Application for college asks a version of this question in its list of college essay topics.
For the past year and few months, I have been involved in the Gloucester Youth Council, a coalition against teen substance abuse. We do a lot of substance prevention work through educating adults and other people such as teens, to get our message across about what we are trying to do in our community. In many cases, it requires us to work with adults to pass regulations and to create change, but it is not always easy to do so. Adults such as health officials and those we are currently working with don’t always take what we say into consideration because they assume we are just “kids,” and don’t value our opinions as much as we think they should. Rather than it being something that is not considered “acceptable,” it is the opposite in the sense that they do not realize how much we believe youth voice matters. Adults tend to expect less from us because we are a group of high schoolers and have not lived as long as they have. It becomes a conflict within me and also within others who are a part of the Gloucester Youth Council because we are not always taken seriously, and we depend on their help for us to progress and to create positive change. Overtime by talking to city officials and lawmakers, we are able to be recognized for the work we have done and our two cents have been put into consideration and have been acted upon in positive ways. I don’t think the stigma people have about youth or teens will go away, but by acting respectable, adults are able to see teens and youth in a new light.
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ReplyDeleteIn the ideal “adult world”, adolescents are expected to be mature, responsible, and engaged members of society. It is assumed that we will take control of our lives and direct ourselves in a path to success. Being an adolescent myself, I am hesitant to conform to “normal” and “acceptable” adult life. My inner self is in conflict with what the world expects from me. When I speak to my older relatives about my plan for the future, I find that my own ideas and beliefs oppose what is considered acceptable by the adult world. My relatives are thrilled to find that I have a plan for my future, but they constantly deter me from certain pathways if a job does not pay well. I recognize that money is important and necessary, but it bothers me that adult’s minds are hard-wired around this material entity. They measure success by the amount of money in your wallet each month, rather than by whether or not you are pursuing your passion. When I was only eight, I had dreams of becoming a renowned writer. The second I expressed my interest in this career path, my goals were crushed by the brutal adult world. I do not want to grow up to become someone who is constantly worrying about wealth and other possessions. It is only normal for my family to want me to be “well-off”, but their definition of this is very different from mine. Triumphs in life should not be measured by the quantity of tangible items, but rather by the state of one’s mind. In the adult world, people admire those who have made a fortune. The real role-models are those who are pleased with the route they have taken. Robert Frost once wrote: “Two roads diverged in a wood, and I--I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.” I want to be able to create my own path, unique from anyone else’s, without being shot down by money concerns from the adult world. Like Frost, I believe the only way to find true happiness is to wander away from the trodden path of “normal” adult life in pursuit of my own version of success.
ReplyDeleteAs children, our innocence and ignorance blinds us from prejudices. However, as we grow older, the beliefs of generations before us and the influence of our environments taints our transparent views of others and the world around us. We are expected to conform to the ideals and beliefs of the society we live in as adults, and raise our children to hold these ideals and beliefs so that they can instill them in their own children. This, I believe, is the downfall of our society, and it angers me that many cultures either subtly or blatantly encourage their youth to see a person’s race and religion before his or her personality and independent beliefs. Even if a white adult is not racist, is not bigoted, and is not discriminatory, there is still a seed of these traits planted in them by society’s ancient idea of racial supremacy. Many might say that this is not the case. Yet almost all white people subconsciously (or consciously) nurture this seed in ways that we do not notice. We might cross the street when a black man is walking towards us on the sidewalk, or get nervous when we see a Middle Eastern looking person on a plane or in a public area. Quite frankly, I am scared that I will discover this seed in myself. This concern has grown with the recent tragedy across the world, as Americans have mostly focused on the terrorist attacks in France- a predominantly white nation. While this was indeed a tragedy that must be remembered, there were many other devastating events recently that were not nearly received in the same light as the Paris attacks. A suicide bomber killed 43 people in Lebanon the same day as the tragedy in France. Over 1,000 people were killed in a stampede during the Hajj pilgrimage in Mecca this last September, and countless terrorist attacks and tragedies in the Middle East have occurred in recent years. However, you do not see national monuments lit up in the colors of the Lebanese or Saudi Arabian flag, and you don’t see these flags veiled upon profile pictures on Facebook. Some people are also trying to blame all Muslims for these tragedies, as well as trying to bar all refugees that are not Christians from coming to America. Because of statements like these, I am entering the adult world with hesitation. I have defended Muslims and other persecuted minorities to those who have generalized them as horrible beings, and have tried to step back and block bias while analyzing a situation. But, frustratingly, I cannot rid society of these prejudices alone. This seed can only be dug up when my entire generation is able to stand together and hold trowels instead of hoses.
ReplyDeleteA major issue I have been exposed to in my life is how adults in society seem to dictate what success and happiness really are. At a young age I was brought into the culture of being on course for success. Every single day was the same routine and as I became older with more responsibilities I found that it gets hard to have fun too. A concept like this is very hard to grasp at such a young age but me being young had no other reason to go against this. Something I have come to learn is that one person's view of success may differ from that of someone else’s. At a personal level, I feel that many adults wrap their minds around success being associated with wealth rather than emotional desire which is something that I have began to adapt to. I now disagree with the wealthy lifestyle and want to continue my admiration for a life with physical and emotional content. My grandmother growing up would always ask me what I want to be when I am an adult and I feel that she is one of the few that sides with me that to be successful is to be happy with what you have in life. Something she also expressed to we would be the question of “if you were to die today would you be ready?”. This question emphasized to me what happiness really is, It is not how much money you have or the materials you own it is the legacy you leave behind for your loved ones and to learn to love your life and the choices that you make. Now obviously I am not ready to die today but I want to get to a point in my life where this is achieved. That is success in my eyes which may not be the wealthy and “acceptable” which is what many may presume. In addition, I feel that my successes in life so far can lead me down my ideal road of success and to look back on high school as the beginning of the “glory years” in life and not the end of them. My view of success would have these years continue for the rest of my life and not have it be just a pathway to the job that will make you the most money. In conclusion, my ideal view of success is something that I wish to strive for everyday by being happy and having fun while keeping up with my responsibilities. No amount of money can buy happiness or success in my eyes and that it comes down to being physically and emotionally happy with your life.
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ReplyDeleteIn our lives we all face adversity. So far in my life I have faced various situations in which my beliefs and morals contrasted with what I was expected to believe. One example of the adversity I faced was several Thanksgivings ago when my grandfather asked me what I was going to do when I was going to do for work when I was older. I was around 11 years old and really had no concrete idea of what I wanted to do with my life. But my curious, adventurous 11 year old mind told him I wanted to take a year after high school graduation and travel Europe. My grandfather grew up during the Great Depression, went to the University of Pennsylvania on a football scholarship, majored in medicine, went to the Drexel School of Medicine, served in World War 2 as a surgeon, and is currently a surgeon in Ohio. He is a hard headed man stuck in his beliefs. Hearing me say I wanted to travel severely agitated him. My grandfather then lectured me on hard work and perseverance instead of “begging” other people to help me through life. Instead of standing up for my beliefs I told my grandfather that I would like to be a surgeon like him after he told my mother what I had told him originally. My grandfather expects me to strive for greatness, meanwhile I strive for happiness.
ReplyDeleteIn any society there are ideas, beliefs, and actions that are considered normal or acceptable but sometimes an individual’s views can deviate from this norm, creating some sort of inner conflict. For most people, this has happened at least once in their lives. For me I cannot remember the exact scenario in which my beliefs came into conflict with the general beliefs of the adult world, but I do remember what happened in general terms. I was at a store with my mom and I’m not sure exactly what I did but whatever it was my mom told me that I shouldn't do that for the reason being that someone might take it or take advantage of the situation. When she spoke with that message behind her words I replied saying that I would like to believe that people wouldn’t do that or another person wouldn’t just let another do something like that. After that had been said my mom and the guy at the cash register laughed. To me this showed that for most adults they expect the worst of other people or at least expect something that isn’t good and then are pleasantly surprised when it doesn’t happen. Most adults believe that you always have to guard yourself from other people and I guess the easiest way to do it is to expect them to do bad things. To me I can’t imagine going about your life always thinking that someone is going to do you wrong in some sort of way. I have not done much about this issue because there is nothing I really can do besides believing what I think is right until someone proves me wrong. You can’t really make someone believe something else in a situation like this because their experiences with others could be very different than yours so they could have a very valid reason for assuming that others will wrong them in some way.
One part in “normal” adult life that is frustrating and confusing is that adults believe that teenagers should have the rest of their life set up after graduation. I believe that you need to experience things and try new things in order to really know what you want to do for the rest of your life. They put so much pressure of teenagers, such as ourselves to know what the next four years of your life is going to look like. I don't even know what tomorrow holds, why should I have to worry about the next four years? As if searching for a career, or finding college isn't already hard enough on top of homework, sports or whatever it might be. Since you were in kindergarten you were being asked what you want to be when you grow up, what child knows what their future holds? People can change in a day, a week, a year, that means there interests can change too and picking one thing you have to do for the rest of your life or one subject you will have to continuously study for four or how ever many years is daunting and somewhat scary. It seems as though within the last years of High school you have to grow up fast, it's not a gradual process. All of these responsibilities are presented to you all at the same time, and it's not always helpful when your teachers, parents or family members expect you to know what you want to be in life and what you want from life. How can teenagers find out what they want to be when they haven't even found themselves yet?
ReplyDeleteIn life kids turn into teenagers and then into adults but why do teenagers have to grow up so quick. Parents expect kids to know their life ahead of time and how they are going to be once they turn into a grown up. After you graduate you go to college to learn about the job you want to do for the rest of your life. Why do I have to know so quickly though. Many people don’t know what they want to be and know what they want to do for the rest of their life. As of right now I do not know what I want to do as a career and my parents have already started asking me what I wanted to do and where I wanted to go to college but honestly I don’t know. They make you decide so quickly too and you have no clue what you actually would want to do. No one ever told you to think about it until you got to highschool and now that you are here you have two years to decide what you actually want to do and you have no idea if you really want to do it. College is expensive and you don’t want to get into a career that you don’t really know if you like and you could be stuck with that job for the rest of your life until you retire. Teenagers are not given enough time to decide what they want to actually be when the are mature adults. You want to have a career that is interesting to you and you are happy to be doing that career.
ReplyDeleteMy dad always tells me, “It’s a job, it’s not supposed to be fun, you’re not supposed to like it, and it’s just something you have to do.” I strongly disagree with this. This is an example of how my beliefs are in conflict with what I am supposed to think. I have tried telling him that some people like their jobs and I would like to be the type of person who can wake up everyday and actually love the job they do. I think he is just bitter because his job is so time consuming. A job affects your whole life, and if you don’t really like it then you will be miserable and have no motivation to be good at the job. I want to live my life as best I can. It might involve being very different than my parents, and they might not like that, but that’s what I want to do. There are aspects of their life that, if it were me, I would have done differently and more extravagant. My mother was always moving to different countries and cities as a child so she never really got a full education and now she does not have a career, just a job. She really likes her job right now, but she never found a career she cares about so much. I do not want that to happen to me. I want to have a fun, flexible job so I can travel the world. If I had enough money and a job that allowed me to, I would go everywhere that I can. We travel a lot now, but my parent’s jobs are not flexible enough so they don’t have enough free days. They are stuck at work mostly everyday for the whole year, except a couple weeks. My dad is helping me think of jobs that involve travelling, and if i got payed for travelling, that would be the best job I could ever think of. Even though he is helping me brainstorm job ideas, he still thinks it’s partly unrealistic that I could have a job I love and care about. My parents expect my life to be similar to theirs, and they expect me to hate my job, but I don’t want to live that way.
ReplyDeleteEverybody in this world has their own opinion on things. My belief of something could be totally different from my friends or parents and theirs could be totally different from someone else. Therefore, each day my ideas are challenged by the older crowd of adults. One prime example is the way your grandparents hassle you about the way you dress or the way you talk. They grew up in a different generation and do not get the ways and style of today. Or the way your parents expect you to be a mature, smart and perfect child when nobody is perfect and problems are always bound to occur. Also, in some cases, adults seem to be obsessed with money and making sure their children have good careers in life. Although I agree with some aspects of this, the push of success upon young teens is very stressful and may contradict with the convictions of the teen. If a teen has the love and passion for something, it is very crushing when their parents push them to be something else that, to them, is the best career and will make them set financially for life. I think that instead of the adults in all of our lives doing this, they should consider the desires of whatever their children want to become. In addition, it is not only the parental and family related adults that take on the expectations of a “normal” life to teens. Teachers also play a huge role in this concept. They do so when a student is trying their best in a class but is still not getting good grades. The teachers, no matter what school, expect all of their students to become great at the subject being taught. Yet, sometimes, even when students try their hardest they can not understand what they are learning and in turn get bad grades. This has happened to me before and so I have been in conflict with the the expectations of adults. These instances and many more show the difference between teens and adults and the expectations they have of a “normal” life.
ReplyDeleteOne element of adult life that I am in conflict with is the idea of growing up with major responsibilities. As I get older, I am realizing how many responsibilities we have to deal with. When I was younger, my parents did just about everything for me and I did not have a worry. School was very easy because we were not doing anything too complicated. Nowadays, I'm finding that I don't have free time or time to have fun throughout the week. Even on the weekends, our teachers are giving us loads of homework that take over much of my time. Between sports, school, and home life, we are trying to juggle many things, but they just keep piling up. Whenever I say something about how much I have to do in front of my parents, they always say that I have it easy and don't even realize it. I understand that they have many different worries in their life about us succeeding, going to work, paying for all of life's expenses, and many other things, but everything is not easy for us either. Both my parents expect exceptional grades in all of my classes, which is not a bad expectation, but it is easier said than done. This conflicts me because I want to perform well for them through my grades, but it isn't too easy when I am introduced to new concepts in each of these classes. You have to keep up with the pace and if you can't, you will fall behind and your grades will suffer. All kids my age are forced with this inner challenge of wanting to do well, but not knowing how to do well because of everything we have to carry on our plates. The one thing that seems to bug all of us is that our parents do not know how to “feel for us”. To them, this is a part of “normal” life that everyone deals with, but seems like much more to me. Life brings many new challenges everyday that we are forced to deal with, even though they may create inner conflicts.
ReplyDeleteIn the past years I have been faced with a very frustrating conflict. Adults are generally expected to take care of themselves, resolve their own problems, and keep up with their responsibilities. As children grow older, and enter the next stage of their life, people start having the same expectations of them as they do adults. This by itself would not be so bad, but on top of carrying the responsibilities of adulthood, these people are also expected to carry all of their previous childhood responsibilities, and still find the time to be available whenever an adult calls upon them. In the past year I have gotten a job, started weekly driving lessons, joined 3 seasons of sports, and became a part of the Environmental club. This-combined with going to highschool, having homework in the majority of my classes everyday, and having numerous essays and projects due-is extremely time consuming. And on top of that, most of my family members, including parents, siblings, aunts, and uncles expect me to be available to help them at all times of the night and day. I am expected to find the time to somehow find all my brother’s missing belongings and mail them out to him at college. It is supposedly my responsibility to make sure all the laundry and dishes get done and the trash gets put out. I am responsible for making all of my own appointments for places like the doctor’s office, dentist, and orthodontist, and finding a way to get there during their business hours. I am expected to go with my family grocery shopping every time we are running low on food. I was even expected to drive my brother out of town at 2:00 a.m. because he wanted to get pizza. I understand that growing up means more responsibilities and hard work, but I do not think that piling on so many stressful tasks is beneficial to any person, no matter what their age is. I think it is absurd that managing all of these many tasks is what adults think of as “acceptable” and “normal.” They do not take the time to consider how incredibly difficult and ridiculous this is. Adults seem to think that if they can handle their responsibilities we should be able to handle similar ones, but they do not take into consideration that they do not play sports, or go to both school and work, or have multiple hours of homework each night. Believing that “adolescents” should have less responsibilities than what is currently expected of them is a conviction that I will continue to stick by, whether or not it is considered “acceptable” or “normal.”
ReplyDeleteOne thing about this world that bugs me from my adolescent perspective is the age rating systems. Movies, TV shows and videogames are all prime examples of this. Not as much now, but when I was a little younger I felt like most of “the good stuff” was behind an age barrier. Now I’m not totally against this system, without it who knows what kindergarteners would be exposed to. However I feel it should be looked over again, and this time with some younger people around. For example here is a list of a few PG 13 rated movies: Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire, Jurassic World, Pixels, and Guardians of the Galaxy. These movies are enjoyed by most people including kids under 13 years old. The only reason that they’re even rated PG 13 is because of some fake fighting, special effect, or dangerous stunt. In this day and age, how come a four year old can turn on the news and hear about ISIS killing people and bombing cities, but not go to the theaters and watch Adam Sandler defeat some video game aliens (The plot of the movie Pixels). I just feel that how the current rating system judges things needs to be rethought. This is 2015, what has been deemed inappropriate has changed over the years, and the rating systems should too.
ReplyDeleteThis year I was faced with a conflict that my belief contradicted an adult's. I was deciding whether or not to play a winter sport. In the fall I play field hockey, in the winter I usually play basketball and in the spring I play softball. My top two sports are field hockey and softball and I am not as good at basketball. My belief was that I should continue to play all the sport, one each season, but the adult belief wasn’t the same. My grandfather thinks that I should give up basketball and focus on the other two. He says that giving up basketball would allow me to become better at field hockey and softball in the off season. My grandfather believes this would give me a greater chance of playing sports in college. I believe that being an all around or diverse athlete, playing multiple sports, is the better option. Also, playing multiple sports while I am still young is what makes me happy, rather than focussing on my future as a 15 year old. My grandfather believes that taking a season off from a sport could also improve my grades which would also lead to a better college, better job and better future. I think that playing sports shouldn’t affect how well a student does in school. It is part of a highschoolers life to be involved in extracurricular activities and schools even push for students to get involved in an after school activity. An adult's belief is always related to the future. They believe that college is the only option after high school if you want to be successful but I believe that that is not always the case. I believe that if you are happy, you are successful.
ReplyDeleteAn element of normal, acceptable adult life that is troubling me is how society thinks people should live. Nowadays, to be successful you are supposed to make a lot of money, live in a big house, drive a luxurious car, send your children to great colleges, etc. But these things need to be paid for. People then work a ton of hours and this causes stress and unhappiness. People just go through the motions and time flies by without being enjoyed. You don’t need all that stuff to be happy. Instead, the happiest people often live simpler lives and have time to enjoy life. They appreciate things life has to offer and spend time with family and friends. Society pressures people and the pursuit of the socially accepted definition of happiness absorbs them. Sometimes you just need to slow down, take a step back, and appreciate the little things.
ReplyDeleteFor so much of our lives we try to live up to the expectations of the world around us. Not being perfect, we all reach a time in our lives when our own personal idea’s conflict with such expectations of us. In this metaphor, at age eight the world was my parents and living up to there expectations of me, after transferring schools. In that, middle year of elementary school(third grade), my parents decided to school choice me to Manchester. A school system that's promise for success was greater yet the nice people were fewer. For once in my life I absolutely hated school! I would come home at the end of every week crying about how rude my teacher and the students were to me, mainly because I was from Gloucester. My parents thought maybe I just needed to get through it, and at the end of the year they allowed me the option to choose whether I'd stay in Manchester or go back to Gloucester for my fourth grade year. Although I made a few friends while at Manchester, it just wasn't the same. I eventually chose to go back to West Parish for fourth grade. Coming into fourth grade I had thought I had learned nothing at Manchester and would be unprepared, but found that the opposite was true and did increasingly better in school. I also saw that my parents wanted to see me do well in school(which was partly why they made me switch schools) so after coming back, I started working harder at my school work. The clashing views between my parents and my own about where my education would be best served, ended up ultimately being what pushes me to do well today and I'm pretty happy where I am.
ReplyDeleteFor our whole lives we are growing up and maturing and eventually we will be forced to go out into the adult world and live our lives. We are always faced with expectations in our lives but the most troubling part about being an adult for me will be choosing a career. It seems impossible to choose one thing I want to do for the rest of my life but all adults have to make the decision at some point. The normal adult world is filled with so much responsibility and decisions that just seems scary and intimidating to most children. Many might be scared to leave the nest as they say or move on into the real world but unlike others I’m excited for the new adventure ill face all on my own. So many children in society want to rely on their parents their entire lives but personally I think we should be eager to go out and create our own rules and choose our own paths in life. The adult world can scare many but there are the few that welcome the challenge and go off to create their own place in the world.
ReplyDeleteThere are many norms in a typical adult life that worry and trouble me. Young adults are expected to go to college, get a job and start a family. After high schools there seems to be no time to travel, have fun and enjoy the world. A couple years after college adults usually settle down into a routine schedule. They usually get up, go to work and then come home to their families not having much time to do anything else during the day. This routine can go on for years and years without any major change. I know raising kids can be a life experience and you have to go to work to get money to live but whatever happened to your teenage dreams of traveling the country with your buddies. What happened to living everyday without knowing what the next day will hold for you. Life is full of adventures and new experiences .The trouble with routines is that time goes by much faster because you are constantly worrying and thinking about tomorrow or next week or next year. When you live near the edge everyday is completely different and you are living second by second unable to think about tomorrow because you don't know what tomorrow holds. People need to start living in the present not in the future. Not living a routine life doesn’t have to be completely crazy, it can be as much as going on a road trip with your family every weekend to different places. Living day to day is not for everyone but some people need to shake up their regular lives sometimes. Although some people do take it to complete extremes. For example there was a lady who had a stable job for twenty years and somewhere in her mind she got the crazy idea that kayaking across the Atlantic Ocean solo would be a challenge she wanted to take on. Adults get distracted by money and fitting in with society that they sometimes forget what is really important in life and that is to live it to the fullest.
ReplyDeleteOne thing that I have noticed as I have been growing up is that people take parts of life too seriously. From school onward people start to take things more seriously because of the way parents and teachers begin to lead you in that direction. The point here is that if you are taking your life too seriously, then how are you supposed to have fun. School is one place where it is up to you whether or not you make the best of the situation that you are in. An example of this would be taking a class too seriously causing you to probably dislike it because you are not just doing the class. Almost any class can be fun if you let it be fun, but if you are forcing it in the other directing then that is where it will go. One way of avoiding this is too have an upbeat attitude towards everything and then nothing can really deter you from being happy with what you do. Another issue that comes from this would be people’s life choices after they are done with school. They will be more likely to choose a career based off of other things than their dreams. No one wants to grow up and be that person who hates their job or career, but then does it just so they can earn money. The thing about this is that your opinion might change with age and you could be putting other things before your dream. Your life goal may be unrealistic in the eyes of your parents, but what would that have to do with your opinion on it? Having a serious point of view on life is not always bad, but it is when people take it to the point of having no place for enjoyment. Life is meant for having fun along the way, but brush off X amount of years towards a serious school and work ethic then valuable time may have been lost. You can not get lost time back so it should be used in a way that makes you happy while that time is still available. The real question here is what motivation would someone have to work or try when it does not make them happy to do so? It is the happiness in life that give people motivation for anything which is why people should just do what makes them feel good no matter what others have to say about it. No one can tell you what to do with your own life so if someone wants to live a serious lifestyle and they are happy about their choices then great, but you should never do things based purely off of what other want you to be like. For as long as people are making choices for themselves that make them happy then they are on the right path to the happiness and freedom that this world has to offer.
ReplyDeleteAt an adolescent age there is a certain list of expectations whether it be to get good grades, to have a job, to clean your room, or even cook dinner. Some parents and other adults have strict expectations of their children when they become a teenager. For me I am expected to get good grades,not to argue with my siblings, to help out around the house, and to buy some things for myself. There has been many times where these expectations have come into conflict with what I do and my ideas. A lot of the time when I am asked to do something I will do it but some days I am asked to do thing after thing after thing. My belief on helping out is taking turns with my siblings, if I feed the dog on Wednesday I shouldn't be asked to feed him again on Thursday, there has been multiple times when I have said to my mom “why can't you ask...” Or “It's not my turn”. My parents don't expect me to take turns for chores they expect me to do what I'm asked even if I don't agree. Another thing I have done that has come into conflict with what is expected of me is not staying after when I need help. Most of the time if I'm having trouble I don't stay after, I would rather go home and figure it out for myself but I am expected to get all the help I need because I'm expected to put school before everything. I believe that if I go to school for six hours I should not have to stay after for extra help. My parents push me hard for success and sometimes it goes against what I want and what I believe. One last conflict that my ideas and expectations have is paying for certain things by myself, I'm expected to buy myself the things I want and I don't have a problem with that till I run out of money. I'm only allowed to have a job during the summer because my mom doesn't want me to have any distractions from school, so once I spend all the money buying things I want I don't have money through the rest of the year for things I want. My parents still expect me to pay for my own things even when they are the reason I don't have a job so I don't have money. My ideas are not always socially acceptable with my parents because they have expectations that they set for me.
ReplyDeleteToday, it is expected that everyone goes to college. But I am not sure whether I want to go. The world says that without a degree, I won't get a good job. But it also says that I will be paying off student loans until I'm 30. My family is also giving me conflicting information. My mother believes that education is the key to doing well, and pushes me to get good grades. She tells me that getting scholarships is important. But at the same time, she doesn't believe that the education system does a good job, and tells me that I should study on my own. She says that a degree will give me a career, when she herself doesn't use, and never used either her bachelors or masters degree. The world says that I need to be in a classroom or on a campus to really be learning. But I have found that I learn more outside of school than in it. The world says that the thousands I will spend will give me knowledge I can't get elsewhere. Yet with the internet, the majority of this information is online for free. The world says that a degree will bring me places I wouldn't be able to get on my own. Maybe this has some truth to it, yet a degree won't even guarantee that I get into these places! Several of the fields are so flooded, that even with a degree, it would be unlikely to land the job I wanted. And many of the degrees offered at colleges don't lead you into a career at all. Looking at all of this, I've thought that it would be much smarter to go into a trade, or even attend a trade school. But since I get good grades, I am expected to go to college for some kind of liberal arts degree. But if I went to college, I wouldn’t know what to study. People say that I will figure it out as I go along, and that the college experience is priceless. Truthfully, I wouldn't care if I missed out on this "college experience." And I don't want to spend thousands of dollars a year trying to find something I like, when I could just as well discover what I like by going to the library.
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